Love is sweet! There are many aspects to a wedding, one being the Bridal Shower that needs to be properly planned. This is one of the first and one of many events leading up to the wedding day, and a special event it is.
If you are the Maid of Honor and/or Bridesmaid, this blog post is for you, this specific event falls on you and you are are responsible for most of the details, it’s your best-friend’s wedding and shes counting on you! Don’t worry, I got you covered, keep reading and I will help you plan a magnificent bridal shower. You being a key part of the bridal party, and someone your friend will look out towards for support for decision making and emotionally. While you help your friend plan her wedding, there are some financial stresses on you as well, such as the shower.
It is customary for either the friend or a close aunt to throw the bride-to-be a bridal shower. Unless, the bride specifically has requested that there be no shower, it’s your responsibility. If you can co-host, this would be a great option for you. Make sure to consult with the bride with certain details of the shower, so that she can let you know if there is something she is uncomfortable with.
Remember you do not need to go over the top, focus on making the event enjoyable instead of extravagant. The guest-of-honour and your wallet – will thank you!
Here are a few tips and things to consider when planning:
Decor/Theme: If you are struggling to come up with a theme, take advantage of the bride’s wedding colours which you can incorporate into the floral, decor, menu and etc. You can incorporate some fresh flowers, fun simple frames with inspiration quotes and images, with a few accent pieces to keep it glamorous and classy!
Entertainment: the bridal shower is one of the first few events leading up to the wedding, where a lot of the bridal party and guest generally meet each other for the first time. Use this event to encourage all guests to mingle and get to know one another. Plan a few games/activities that revolves around the bride (as she would be the commonality among everyone) is a great way to break the ice and for everyone to interact. Keep it classy, be creative and of course have a lot of fun with it!
Food/Menu: This can be a lot of fun, with various types of snacks, desserts and everything else in between (eg. potluck is a common option or catering from your local restaurant)
Party Favours: Keep it simple and definitely do not break the wallet. Some ideas are such as: bath salts, nail polish, jars of honey or jam… anything small and genuinely useful will make for a nice party favor.
Drinks/Cocktail Bar: Depending on the theme, a bridal shower is a perfect opportunity to have a signature cocktail, you can do a mimosa bar or a drink that shows a bit of the bride’s personality. A hot beverage such as a favourite tea is also a great option, or both!
Keep reading, I have put together a brief timeline on when certain details should be handled and how to plan a successful Bridal Shower:
It’s time to start planning … 3 Months:
A bridal shower should generally take place about three months before the wedding and usually by a close aunt or friend (Bridesmaid and/or Maid of Honour). Feel free to adjust the timing to suit your showering style (eg. outdoor vs. indoor). Some brides may request to have it closer to the wedding date when many close family & friends will be arriving.
The following is a checklist and things to think about as you get started to plan:
- talk/coordinate with the bride – Does she want a shower? Does she want only women or co-ed? Co-ed showers are now common. Afternoon tea or Saturday night party? Etc.
- Set the date – Similar to a wedding – select the date and be sure to create your “Save-the-Dates”. This can be done through an evite or mail hard copy invitations.
- Create a guestList. (Adore! Quick Wedding Tip: Anyone you invite to the shower must also be invited to the wedding).
Its coming … 2 Months:
- Establish a budget
- Make a detailed “To-Do” list (don’t overwhelm yourself) either hire a coordinator or ask for help.
- Send out the Save-the-Dates to your invitees. Email is fine. (Adore! Quick Wedding Tip: Personally call important guests (close family (eg. aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc.), best friend, groom’s mom/grandmother, close aunt or sister, etc.).
- If you choose not to email your invitation, then purchase your bridal shower invitations and address them and mail them out.
- Meet together with the host to finalize some details:
- Shower program
- Cake & other baked goods
- Equipment rental
- Place an order for the bakery – Cake or cupcakes or both and desserts for guests.
- Confirm with rental company – if any equipment needs to rented
- Confirm your flower’s order (if applicable)
- Confirm decorations
You got this … 1 Month:
- Send out invitations
- Buy decorations & props
Sample bridal shower invitation:
A little bit of patience … 2 Weeks:
- Order flowers
- Buy your gift for the bride
- Make a shopping list – Food, Drinks, Cutlery, Stationery, etc.
- Purchase Spirits – if you’re having cocktails (eg. Sangria or punch is a popular choice for a shower and cost effective).
- Pick up any baskets, compile the music on an iPod/Laptop/USB
Hold tight … 1 Week:
- Confirm RSVPs
- Confirm orders placed (caterer, flowers, cake, etc.)
- Confirm reservation (if shower is at a restaurant, High Tea, etc.)
- Buy groceries
- Prepare shower games/activities
- Wrap gifts if there are prizes for the games
Are you getting excited … 1 Day before:
- Prep: Food that can be prepared
- Receive & set up rental equipment (Table, Favour, Linens, Tents, etc.)
- Confirm schedule with the host, the bride, and confirm who is bringing what and when.
- Any other last minute errands
It’s here … Day of:
- Have fun and be prepared to make some AMAZING memories!
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person” – Mignon McLaughlin