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Engagement Season is in full bloom, aka “Love Season”. This time of year is the most common time in which many create the “Will You Marry Me? moment” and pop that special question and propose to the love of their lives.
So, you’ve decided to propose to your significant other — CONGRATULATIONS!!! For all of you “Proposers” out there, this blog pieve is for you. This post will provide you with tips and suggestion to help you plan for your “perfect” proposal, as well some important information when choosing that symbol of unity (aka the ring)
Like with any milestone, planning is the first step to achieving success. When engagement planning, start with a budget and target date on when you would like to pop the question. Ask for help if you need when executing, whether it be friends, family or even an event planner. So, think about when you would like to propose, maybe on the anniversary of your first date, or their birthday, or maybe a random day where they would least expect it. I suggest you put a little bit of thought behind this before taking any step, as this moment is one of the most important of your life.
Choose a date and location that truly is important and has meaning for you both, something that you both will cherish and remember for the rest of your lives. Once you pop the question, would you like your close family and friends to join you for a mini reception to celebrate? Perhaps making a reservation at a restaurant close to your engagement location.
Be sure to sort out the following details before you start to plan, if applicable:
The following is a checklist for “Engagement Planning”:
1 month before:
- Pick a theme (if applicable)
- Choose location, date, time
- Start to look at rings (go to a couple of stores, they will educate you on cut, style, price, etc.)
- Meet with the parents – ask for permission
- Ask close family & friends to reserve the date if you would like for them to join you to celebrate on that day!
1 week before:
- Confirm reservations
- Confirm how you will arrive at location
- Confirm how she will arrive at location (who will bring your significant other)?
- Confirm with friends and family who may be involved with the actual engagement (photographer, video, etc.)
- Pick up ring
- Wake up, go to the gym, eat and try to relax
- Give yourself enough time to get ready and travel to location (be on time)
- Try to breathe and stay calm
- Once you are with them, try not to rush, try to be in the moment and when comfortable pop the question
- Enjoy this moment!!
- And finally, Happy Engagement
In addition to engagement planning, there is a lot to consider when choosing a ring. Instead of letting them pick out the engagement ring, or designing one together, the most romantic move is to design one on your own (unless you both decide to design it together). That being said, you are about to embark on an intimidating journey into the wild world of diamond selection.
Before you become extremely stressed and overwhelmed take a couple of moments to breathe and keep reading below on how to overcome this potential frightful experience. We truly understand “the roller coaster of emotions a person goes through while shopping for and picking out an engagement ring”.
Here are the real life secrets that no body talks about surrounding the ring:
1.The most important tip, you need to listen intently anytime your significant other talks about jewelry. Pay attention to any hints they may give you intentionally or unintentionally.
- Asking for Permission
This is a very nerve racking and sometimes an uncomfortable situation, but like ripping off a band-aid, you just do it. Asking for permission from your significant other’s parents/guardian shows respect and appreciation for their family. They will love you so much more for it!
- Talk to other friends who have already been through this experience of purchasing an engagement ring.
Buying an engagement ring is probably one of the biggest and most expensive investments, so it would not hurt to get a couple of opinions and advice from family or friends who have already been through the experience. Ask previously engaged friends for jeweler recommendations. You can educate yourself better on what to expect, what questions to ask, even perhaps a better deal because of this referral.
- You should not buy them something you “think” they may want because you like it!
It’s important to think “what would they really like”? You may love gold but they like platinum. You might like one cut but they like something else. For this specific purchase make sure it’s something they will love, remember, they will be wearing this for the rest of their life. So think about what they would buy not what you like.
- All diamonds look the same at first!
The first moment you walk into that jewelry store and start looking at these beautiful crystals, you will start to feel overwhelmed or even think that first shiny rock is the one you should buy. Just stop for one moment and take a step back. Diamonds are not the same and the first price they offer is not the best price. It’s important to educate yourself about the types of diamonds there are, the cuts, average selling price, and what to expect prior to stepping into a store, so you are not left making a bad choice which costs you an arm and leg. Play the field and shop around, ask lots of questions, and take your time.
- The Diamond – everything you need to know
Ring shopping is by far one of the most expensive and cause emotional stress in a person’s life, we understand! A lot is riding on this, and this purchase must be done right.
They provide each of their guests with this handy “The Diamond Book” which you can grab at their stores, that summarizes in some short pages on all the characteristics you should focus on while choosing a diamond.
This book outlines the importance of the 8Cs of which I will focus on 5, carat, colour, clarity, cut, and character. I have included visuals from the Maison Birks catalog & details for each characteristic:
This represents the measure of the diamond’s weight, for example:
The GIA colour scale extends from D to Z.
This is the extent to which a diamond is free from inclusions. If there are no inclusions or surface blemishes the diamond is considered “flawless”. Inclusions are diamonds “DNA”.
This characteristic is one of the most important decision as it sets the overall look of the ring, take your time to look through each cut, if the style fits, and what you want. There are three combinations of cuts: BRILLIANCE, DISPERSION, and SCINTILLATION.
Brilliance – the diamonds brightness
Dispersion – known as fire is the breaking up of white light into spectral colours
Scintillation – the energy/life of the diamond
Another important decision in choosing a diamond is the shape.
- consider custom-designing the ring
You have the option to buy the setting and diamond separately. Most common practice is to buy both at one stop shop because its easier, but not necessarily the right choice. You choose to customize your ring, this does not equate to more expensive. Customization can actually be a better and more affordable choice, depending on what you want. If you like the stone from one ring and the setting from another, why not combine those and create your own unique ring? You know your fiance better than anyone else.
- Like every milestone, keep a strict budget!
As mentioned earlier, buying an engagement ring is financially and emotionally stressful, and let’s face it, it’s expensive no matter what way you look at it. During this experience, you will be pressured, convinced to spend more, choose this ring, choose that cut, etc. but do not be afraid to keep with what you had in mind and tell the jeweler your budget and be firm and strict with it. It’s your money, your time and moment, so make the most of it by shopping around for your best option.
9. Feel free to consult one of your close friend or a close sibling if your significant other has one. A close friend or sibling would add value and confirm the style, type and also would be more than willing to help and be involved while shopping around. They would not only help you pick out the ring, but can also help you with planning the proposal. TIP: keep a limit on who you tell and how much you tell them so the surprise doesn’t get out before it even happens.
10. Once you find the perfect ring, you must now put the same amount of time and effort into planning a fabulous proposal. It does not have to be so elaborate, or over the top, but there should be some thought put into it or something you know she would love.
The following two videos are nothing short of flawless, chic, romantic, and a fairy-tale proposal. Use these proposals as inspiration to find your very own creative style!
First video is a “Bollywood Flash Mob” inspired proposal, the groom-to-be certainly hit all the right tunes, steps and of course she said YES! Bollywood Inspired Proposal!
The mastermind behind this second proposal shows thoughtfulness, chicness, and that any vision you have, with a little bit of coordination and effort, anything is possible to make a reality. Fake Wedding, Real Engagement
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible” – unknown